WHAT IS SELF PLEASURE?
When you masturbate, you touch your genitals (or other sensitive areas) for sexual pleasure. However, masturbation is a complex subject that often goes untalked about. In this post, we're going to dig deeper into this erotic subject and dispel some common myths and misconceptions about masturbation.
Types of masturbation:
Masturbation varies from person to person and there is no one type of masturbation because everyone is different. Masturbation can involve any type of erotic touching or stimulation. For example, stimulation of the clitoris or nipples as well as anal or vaginal penetration are types of masturbation.
Masturbation can be done alone or with another person. At the end of the day, masturbation is just another kind of sex. So if you do it with someone, it has to be consensual. What we find arousing is very individual, but it is important that you feel comfortable doing it. Masturbation is often accompanied by an orgasm (sexual climax), but this is not always the case.
Benefits of Masturbation：Masturbation is beneficial for both our sex life and our health. The effects of masturbation include:
- Better knowledge about our body
- Better understanding of our individual preferences in sex
- A way to enjoy sex without the risk of pregnancy or contracting sexually transmitted diseases
- A way to build trust with a partner and safely share what both of you enjoy.
- It has also been shown to reduce stress and can even help you fall asleep.
- Pain relief from orgasms can help relieve menstrual cramps.
How to make the most of your masturbation?
1.Book time with yourself.
Start by grabbing your calendar and finding a 15- to 30-minute slot each day to be in your favorite spot to explore your masturbation practice.
2.Create a space and environment in which you feel comfortable and energized.
Set up a romantic bedroom environment just for yourself. Think of an erotic experience you've had in the past or a favorite fantasy scene and recreate it as best you can. What made the environment perfect for your enjoyment: candles, darkness or natural daylight, music or silence?
3.Get in the mood.
Relaxing preparation sometimes helps to get you in the mood, even for a solo game. Schedule a massage and set aside half an hour for yourself after you get home and relax. Take a hot shower with essential oils or a bubble bath to your favorite sexy music. A small glass of wine for the first few days is fine, but try totally sober masturbation to help you become clear and present with yourself.
4.Explore different ways to turn yourself on.
Use erotic books, daydream, watch porn or play whatever music gets you in the mood. There is no right or wrong here, just try different options.
5.Wear something that makes you feel sexy.
Do lingerie turn you on? Choose a flattering outfit to wear just for yourself, or choose sensual fabrics that feel delicious against your skin.
If you're feeling really great in your body, try masturbating in front of a mirror and watching yourself get aroused. Even if you don't, it's a wonderful way to get to know your body by exploring your anatomy with a handheld mirror before you begin.
7.Buy yourself a new toy.
Explore the difference between manual stimulation and the use of gadgets. The experiences can be completely different, and you might discover something new about your body.
What to avoid when masturbating?
- Rubbing too hard
Don't rub too hard: Rubbing too fast and too hard can damage your organ. Remember that you're exposing your penis to friction, which can cause swelling, muscle pain, and rashes. All of this makes you vulnerable to urinary tract infections if you don't take proper care of your genitals.
- Don't press too hard
Don't be desperate: squeezing your penis too hard can disappoint you later in bed. A study in the journal Trauma and Acute Care Surgery found that only 19 percent of penile fractures occur during sex. But a whopping 60 percent occurs while men are masturbating.
- Do it in a moving car
Don't do it in a moving car: yes, excitement can get you anywhere. According to various case studies published in the Canadian Urological Association Journal, several men have broken their penises while masturbating in moving cars. It's better to control the arousal and wait until you can reach a room or park the car (if it's legal).
- Introduction of foreign bodies
Don't stick your penis in someone else's objects: According to a case study in the Indian Journal of Surgery, the 27-year-old man shoved a plastic bottle onto his Johnson because he didn't have a cock ring handy. This brought him to the OR as the penis had swollen to three times its size.
How much masturbation is too much?
Unhealthy masturbation habits are not necessarily due to the frequency with which one masturbates.
In fact, the way you do it is far more important than the frequency.
There is no right way to masturbate; everyone has their own preferences. Still, there are things that shouldn't happen when masturbating. "Too much" masturbation is primarily an attitude or mindset problem.
Here are some of the signs that the amount you're masturbating is becoming too much.
- You think about it all the time
Masturbation can become a problem if you keep thinking about it. If you wake up and want to masturbate, get lost in your mind at work and feel like you want to go home immediately to masturbate, it could be a sign that it's getting too much.
While it's perfectly fine to be aroused, spending all day waiting for masturbation is a sign that it's getting to be too much.
- Your work or social life suffers
In some cases, the desire to masturbate can interfere with your future life. Skipping social events to masturbate could mean you're overdoing it. The same goes for being late for work or leaving a meeting early because you want to masturbate.
If you masturbate in public, it's a sure sign that your relationship with masturbation has become unhealthy.
- The sex or your relationship suffers as a result
You may feel that your masturbation is affecting your relationship with your partner. This can be for sexual reasons - so you would rather masturbate alone than to have sexual contact with your partner - or for emotional reasons.
While it's perfectly normal to masturbate in a relationship, if your relationship is suffering from your habits, something could be up.
- It hurts you physically
No matter what you enjoy, masturbation shouldn't cause you any physical pain or harm.
There are several ways to injure yourself while masturbating. Aggressive or frequent masturbation can cause edema, a slight swelling of the skin. But it can also cause more serious conditions, like Peyronie's disease, which causes scar tissue to form in the penis.
Masturbating shouldn't hurt, but it can hurt if you overdo it.
- Masturbating comes with negative feelings
Masturbation should also not lead to emotional distress. However, it is possible to associate it with negative emotions such as guilt, shame, and unhappiness. While this isn't necessarily a sign that you're masturbating too much, it can be an indication that your attitude towards masturbation is unhealthy.
It's important to be honest with yourself about what these feelings might mean.
Improve your sex game with regular masturbation:
Australian men are masturbating more than ever before, according to a survey conducted by popular online sex toy brand Love honey. It was also found that 21% of men masturbate with a sex toy at least once a week. Being called a "wanker" isn't the dirty word it used to be, especially when you consider the numerous benefits that regular masturbation brings, especially when it comes to enhancing one's sex life.